April 28th, 2007

a lot of guys would hate me for writing this entry. and i hope that it doesnt come back around and bite me on my cute little behind, but i have to write this for all my little sisters out there.

boys (and by extension, men) like playing games. whatever the game is, theyll play it, especially if it gets them what they want.

and what better game to play than the ones that'll get a girl to go to bed with you.

i know it sounds awful to speak of women as a plaything, but it's for your own good. all riled up? good. read on.

a guy is a guy, no matter how nice looking, friendly, and well schooled he is. deep down, we all have that little devils eager to come out and play.

why would attached guys flirt with women? simple. it's exhilirating. it's new. there's electricity. tension. and who wouldnt want that rush every now and then?  just because your boy acts like an angel doesnt mean that he cant fall down from heaven.

so how would you know if the guy's serious about you? meet his family.

if there's one thing a guy wouldnt want to do if he's not serious about you, is to meet his family. why? simple. it's because he'll get caught. his family and his home is his sanctuary. his alfred and his batcave. but unlike alfred, his family wont keep his secrets and let him do stupid things, unless theyre screwed up themselves.

if his family knows he has a girlfriend or a wife somewhere and he brings you home to introduce you as a girlfriend, if theyre sane, they wont put up with it. either theyll tell you right then and there, or theyll tell you another time. the important thing is that theyll tell you.

but if they dont, would you want to do something with a guy whose family doesnt even care about you?

it's probably hard to get around to meeting the family so early in the relationship but try to get to it as soon as you can. there's nothing wrong about getting to know the family of the guy who wants to get into your pants.

start with his home phone number. call him there when you know he wont be. chat with his family members. ask his sister or brother out and get on theyre good side. i know it takes a lot of effort, but that's the only way to be sure before you take the deep plunge.

no one's telling you not to listen to your heart. but use your head first.

i love talking to my nephew. he's so honest.

we talk (or what passes for a conversation between a 30ish boy and a 5ish tyke) about a lot of things. i cant understand him most of the time, but i do get the gist of whatever kind of language that comes from his mouth.

at times, he'll come up to me and tell me how school was or how his day was. he'll show me a new scar or two and tell me how he got it. and then he'll drivel on about his mom and dad's fight last night and he'll look all worried and concerned, you cant help but smile at him.

5 yrs old and he's carrying all the weight of the world on his tiny little shoulders.

then there are time he'd come up to me and beg me to play with him. if im busy and beg off, he'll pout and say that he hates me. of course, he cant discriminate between actual hate and tampo but i know he's just disappointed because he wants a little quality time with his tito.

it's not shocking to find children not having any capacity for deceit and dishonesty. they say what they feel. there's no concept of white lies and grey truths. although as they grow older, self awareness and their mechanism for self preservation kicks in. when they know theyre getting in trouble, theyll start to lie.

they learn to lie because they know if they did something wrong, theyll get scolded. and no one likes to get scolded. so self preservation kicks in.

adults on the other hand have an endless capacity for deceit. there's a boundless supply of reason for one to lie. whereas before, it used to be just be self preservation, now you have the most trivial of reasons to the most inane.

but of course, that is the nature of things. i mean, if animals could talk, they would probably lie as well, wouldnt they?